tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20595227.post2309146518429754765..comments2024-03-28T17:49:22.207-05:00Comments on Belief in myself!: People PleasingMaryFranhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02507347923712459651noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20595227.post-29008454038780414392013-04-11T16:35:07.782-05:002013-04-11T16:35:07.782-05:00Thanks for the encouraging words!!! The camp was h...Thanks for the encouraging words!!! The camp was held at New Life Bible Camp in Hyndman PA. http://www.newlifebiblecamp.com/Debsdailylifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01520412949675963572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20595227.post-82718573220732432692013-04-10T23:09:01.796-05:002013-04-10T23:09:01.796-05:00Way to go! I sometimes have the same problem. I no...Way to go! I sometimes have the same problem. I now try to make myself wait to give an answer on things like that until I can think through it. Before - I would agree to things - thinking I would have enough time, but knowing in my heart that I wouldn't.Darcy Wintershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13762044938727103931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20595227.post-72912965039201486012013-04-10T12:38:08.812-05:002013-04-10T12:38:08.812-05:00There is nothing at all mean about looking out for...There is nothing at all mean about looking out for yourself and the things that are important to you. <br /><br />Other people may have gotten used to you always saying yes, but guess what? They will live, they will get over it, and they can just get used to you saying no once in a while! Stained Glass Butterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990646723410742552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20595227.post-15732373393194044142013-04-10T10:16:37.290-05:002013-04-10T10:16:37.290-05:00I'm gonna be honest here; I was a TOTAL doorma...I'm gonna be honest here; I was a TOTAL doormat until I hit menopause. By then, things had progressed downhill so badly in my marriage, that it ended. I look back now, and wonder if I had gently spoken up for myself, and -being uber honest-TRAINED my husband to be more considerate, might we still be together? Probably not, but maybe. I am in a far better place now, with a husband who adores me. He didn't need to be trained. LOL<br /><br />My point is, we are only as 'abused' or 'neglected' as we allow ourselves to be. HOWEVER, we don't have to be abrasive to get our needs recognized (if not met.) We can train those around us to respect us more, and our needs. Your needs are every bit as important as anyone else's. You need to value yourself enough to start to learn to gently speak up for yourself. Not to paint anyone n a corner, but to offer as alternatives things that you want and need. <br /><br />Be strong; you will need to be. But you need to release your inner needs; they are important!Gwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18386517479350871434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20595227.post-33832111656070386942013-04-10T07:36:51.669-05:002013-04-10T07:36:51.669-05:00I find myself doing the same things. My son needs...I find myself doing the same things. My son needs something or my husband or a friend. I put aside what I need and take care if them. I am also getting better at saying, "No". Not because I don't want to help them, but because I already had plans for myself.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16149186891188677587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20595227.post-5643267279179033682013-04-10T06:48:46.454-05:002013-04-10T06:48:46.454-05:00BRAVO! saying no can be a good thing and making yo...BRAVO! saying no can be a good thing and making your hubby think of your needs is a neccesity. now i dont know him personally but guys (myself included) can be pretty dense and we seem to have less of a hard time being selfish. mayhaps it's time he made your wants a priority after all you're a babe (YES YOU ARE!) and he's lucky to have you! a gentle reminder once in a while will do you BOTH good!timothyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17691698860583917228noreply@blogger.com